The Disappearance of Hayden Manis
Christmas Eve 2019 was supposed to be a joyful family gathering in Muncie, Indiana. Four-year-old Hayden Ian Lee Manis ran around his great-grandmother's house with the boundless energy that only small children possess, his bright eyes sparkling as he tore into presents. His grandfather, Gary Manis—affectionately known as "Paw Paw"—watched his beloved grandson with the kind of love that comes from being someone's whole world for a precious period of time.
None of them could have known it would be the last time the extended family would ever see Hayden alive.
A Life Marked by Upheaval
Born on May 15, 2015, Hayden's short life was already marked by instability before he could even walk. At just one year old, he was removed from his parents' custody when drug tests revealed cocaine use. The situation escalated when authorities discovered his father, Dustin Manis, in a motel room with baby Hayden while heroin was openly present. The Indiana Department of Child Services stepped in, placing Hayden with his paternal grandfather, Gary.
For a year and a half, Hayden found stability and love with Paw Paw. Gary Manis describes those days with the kind of warmth that comes from genuine affection—Hayden was a "good kid" who never gave him trouble and loved nothing more than following his grandfather around, shadowing his every move. It was the kind of relationship that creates lifelong memories and unbreakable bonds.
But in 2018, when Hayden was not quite three years old, the courts made a decision that would change everything. Dustin had completed his court-ordered probation and drug treatment program and petitioned for custody of his son. Despite Gary's desperate pleas to keep Hayden safe with him, the court ruled in Dustin's favor. The Department of Child Services didn't object to the decision.
The Slow Fade
What followed was a gradual but steady decline in family contact. During 2018 and 2019, Dustin would bring Hayden to family gatherings, but the visits became increasingly infrequent. The family experienced another blow in May 2019 when Dustin's mother, Leanna, passed away. Her death may have been a significant factor in what came next, potentially affecting Dustin's ongoing struggles with addiction.
There was apparently a fight between Dustin and Gary, which likely contributed to the growing distance. After that final Christmas Eve gathering in 2019, the visits stopped entirely. According to Hayden's aunt Chloe, who posted about the situation on Facebook years later, Dustin believed the family was trying to take Hayden away from him, which explained his decision to cut off in-person contact.
The family didn't give up easily. Dustin's aunts continued reaching out through text messages, regularly inviting him and Hayden to family events. Dustin would respond that he would try to make it, but they never showed up. In 2021, Dustin moved out of Muncie entirely and eventually stopped responding to messages altogether.
The Last Message
On May 18, 2023, Dustin sent what would be his final communication to the family. The message, filled with grammatical errors but heartfelt sentiment, read: "Hey aunt barb, I promise on everything all is well. i promise u [I]ve just been having a lot going on try to work on my family that I am making and what not I appreciate u reaching out and checking but i'm just doing what I promised my mom id do when she was on here deathbed and that was look out for what make me happy and doing what ever it may be to keep my self happy I'm doing good and I'm doing right and I'm work in on making the family I've always wanted."
Looking back, this message takes on an eerie quality. If Hayden had already been missing for three years at this point, what did Dustin mean by "making the family I've always wanted"? The reference appears twice in the message, suggesting it was important to him. But where was Hayden?
The Truth Begins to Unravel
The first crack in Dustin's carefully constructed story came in September 2024 through a chance encounter. Two of Dustin's great-grandmothers happened to meet in a Muncie store, and during their conversation, one revealed that Dustin had told her Hayden had been taken by DCS again in 2022. This directly contradicted his messages claiming everything was fine.
Alarmed by this inconsistency, the Manis family contacted both the state and police. What they learned was chilling: DCS had no record of removing Hayden from Dustin's custody since releasing him in 2018. There was no official record of Hayden anywhere.
When law enforcement finally tracked down Dustin in September 2024, Hayden wasn't with him. Dustin initially claimed that Hayden had been taken by DCS and given to his mother in 2022, but this proved false. In fact, when the investigation became public, Hayden's mother posted desperate pleas on Facebook, begging anyone with information about her son's whereabouts to come forward.
The lack of any school records was particularly troubling. While there was documentation of Hayden's Head Start graduation in June 2018, there was no record of him being enrolled in any school afterward. By 2024, he should have been eight or nine years old and well into elementary school.
A Tragic End to the Investigation
In November 2024, Dustin was pulled over during a routine traffic stop. His nervousness was explained when he mentioned recent police questioning about his missing son. Officers discovered heroin, methamphetamine, and a syringe in his possession. He was arrested and charged on December 4th. His grandmother posted $30,000 bail to secure his release.
Just days after getting out of jail, on December 15, 2024, Dustin died of an acute mixed drug intoxication—an overdose. With his death, the last person known to have been with Hayden could no longer provide answers about what happened to the little boy.
The Search Continues
Police have conducted extensive searches of properties where Dustin was known to have lived, including using cadaver dogs. This included a house where Dustin lived with his girlfriend Crystal Hall and her daughters. Both Crystal and her father, who owned the house, have been interviewed but deny any knowledge of Hayden. They moved out of state in 2021.
Authorities believe Hayden went missing sometime in 2020, with reports suggesting he was last seen in January of that year. The case has been listed with both NamUs and The Charley Project. Muncie Crime Stoppers has posted a $1,000 reward for information leading directly to Hayden's discovery.
Theories and Speculation
The case has generated several theories about what happened to Hayden. Some social media posts have made lurid claims about abuse and murder, allegedly based on a confession from Dustin to law enforcement. However, these claims haven't been corroborated, and police have asked for such posts to be removed. Delaware County prosecutor Hoffman has acknowledged there are reports of abuse and murder but emphasizes that nothing has been verified.
Other theories suggest Hayden may have been trafficked, though there's little concrete evidence supporting this possibility.
Perhaps the most likely scenario is that Hayden met with an accident while in his father's care. Given Dustin's ongoing struggles with addiction, he may not have been providing adequate supervision. There are numerous ways a young child could come to harm through neglect or carelessness—drowning in a nearby pond, wandering away unsupervised, or suffering a fatal fall.
Questions and Criticism
Many have criticized Dustin's family for not realizing sooner that Hayden was missing. However, this criticism seems unfair given the circumstances. The COVID-19 pandemic began just four months after the family's last contact with Hayden, making normal in-person visits impossible for most of 2020. The family continued reaching out regularly—one aunt reported extending invitations every month—but Dustin moved away from the area in 2021, making contact even more difficult.
Perhaps more puzzling is why Hayden's mother wasn't seeing him regularly. She lived in the area and only became publicly involved when the investigation began, making her own desperate pleas for information on social media.
A Case That Haunts
Delaware County prosecutor Eric Hoffman has been candid about the case's impact: "There are very few days I come to this office and I don't think about Hayden Manis... This case is on my mind, and it's on the investigators' minds on a daily basis. We're not going to stop until we get to an answer. We need to know the truth."
The tragedy of Hayden Manis represents everything that can go wrong when addiction, family dysfunction, and failed systems intersect. A little boy with bright eyes and a big smile, who loved following his Paw Paw around and opening Christmas presents, simply vanished without a trace.
While Hayden's family has come to believe he is no longer alive, they continue searching for answers. They need to know what happened to their beloved little boy. More importantly, Hayden deserves justice, whatever form that might take.
The investigation remains active, and authorities continue to hope that someone will come forward with crucial information. Though the timeline is old, the investigation is relatively new, and there's always hope that the truth will eventually surface.
Until then, Hayden Ian Lee Manis remains a missing child, a bright light extinguished far too soon, and a reminder of how precious and fragile childhood truly is. His story serves as a call to all of us to protect the vulnerable children in our communities and to never stop asking the difficult questions when something doesn't seem right.
If you have any information about Hayden Manis, please contact the Delaware County Sheriff's Department or Muncie Crime Stoppers immediately. Every piece of information, no matter how small it might seem, could be the key to finally bringing this little boy home.
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